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Skinner, Shorter, And Tighter

Nov 7th, 2011 3 Comments

It seems like all the clothing these days are getting skinner, shorter, and tighter. And the clothing stores tell you that “if you’ve got it, flaunt it!” Don’t even get me started on Junior’s clothing. It’s really hard to find modest clothing. All the clothing makes you look like trashy! And it all seems to be made so it WILL cause guys to stumble.

These days, all girls seem to be thinking “will this outfit make me look hot or not?” Sorry girls, but looking “hot” isn’t exactly what you should be thinking when you get dressed! Rather, you should be thinking “will this outfit cause a brother to stumble?” When I get dressed in the morning, I try to be modest, yet fashionable/attractive. I don’t get up thinking “what can I wear that will push the limits?’ or “how hot will this make me look” Looking hot isn’t on my agenda! Looking attractive yet modest? Yes!

I love the label on my cargo pants, it says “To go nowhere follow the crowd” And it’s SO true! Following the latest trends won’t get you anywhere! You CAN be modest while being attractive!

Girls, you don’t want to look trashy. And all the clothing these days seems to be trying to make girls look trashy. Let me ask you something, do these clothing items REALLY honor God? When you are wearing short shorts, mini skirts, tube dresses, and crop tops will people be able to see your shining light? And are you being a city on a hill?

Remember, your clothing should be loose enough to show you are a lady, but tight enough to show you are a woman. Tube dresses/tops, short shorts, “hot” pants, crop tops, and mini skirts/dresses aren’t clothing that a virtuous girl wears. When you get dressed, take a good look in the mirror and check out your outfit, would you be embarrassed if your pastor could see you? If not, then wear the clothing! But if you would be embarrassed, wear a different outfit.

When you choose to ignore the latest immodest trends, not only are you protecting your OWN purity, but you are also protecting the purity of boys and men around you.

Why I’m Waiting

Oct 27th, 2011 1 Comment

Many times I have had people and even “friends” laugh when they find out that I am waiting to kiss or touch a guy till I’m married. And then they ask me why I would want to do something so old fashioned as to save my virginity for my wedding night. Why on earth would you want to do that?? Is generally their response.

My response? I don’t want to give pieces of my heart or body away to guys who simply want me for my body. That’s not ok with me. I respect myself enough to realize that throwing myself out there to any guy is destroying my physical and emotional purity.

One way that I help myself to remember is by wearing a purity ring. And one of my favorite quotes is “True love waits”.


When I get married, I want to walk down the aisle spotlessly pure, and I want to give myself to my husband. Fully knowing that no other man has seen or touched my body. My body is sacred and for my husband. I know that waiting, even though it may be hard will make our first kiss even more special.

The Bible says that our bodies are God’s temple. And if our bodies are His temple, how are we respecting God’s temple if we let anyone and anybody use our bodies?

Check out these Bible verses on purity-

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” -1 Timothy 4:12

1 Corinthians 6:18- “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”

Girls, if any of you have given pieces of your heart and body away, that doesn’t mean that you have to continue doing that. Because God has forgiven you. Even if you are no longer a virgin (whether by choice or force), God still loves you. And your future husband will too. Whether or not you gave your virginity away, or it was taken from you is not the point, the point is, is that God still loves you and you can continue to wait for your Prince Charming. You don’t have to continue giving yourself away.

Your body and purity is special. Please save it for your husband! If you want to read some good books on this subject, read Joshua Harris’s books. I cannot recommend them more. Sure, he is blunt, but he also does a amazing job of writing on purity.

Am I right, or am I wrong? Or am I the only one who is still committed to wait? And if you are married and waited until your wedding day to kiss, was it worth it? Or married ladies who didn’t wait to kiss, do you wish you did? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Rapunzel or A Calling?

Oct 21st, 2011 8 Comments

Some day’s I feel like Rapunzel. If you have ever seen Tangled then you know what I’m talking about. Some days I feel like my if revolves around school, dishes, and chores. And sometimes I wonder to myself “when will my life begin”, and more then not, I start thinking that I just need a Flynn Rider to come and rescue me.


One night after a especially hard day this month I say down and started journaling. I cried out to God telling him that I wanted more. I wanted a life besides this. Why can’t I be like other girls? And why does this have to be so hard! You see, one of my pet peeves is farming. I don’t like vegetables. I mean I like to EAT them, but this girl doesn’t like to grow them. However, my parents are true country people. We farm. Ever since we moved out to the country in August, we have been preparing to farm next year. But, I don’t want to. However, like everything else God is slowly teaching me that I need to let go of my own dreams and embrace God’s calling for me. That night I learned two things-

1. I’m a farm girl. I’m not a city girl who lives in Chicago, I live in the country surrounded by corn fields. I am also called to help my parents with their various enterprises.

2. If I’m glorifying God by washing dishes, watching children, cleaning up the bathroom or hallway for the TENTH time today, taking care of chickens, and weeding, then so be it. I just have to learn to give my dreams to God!

This Rapunzel type attitude doesn’t glorify God. As a very dear friend  (my piano teacher) pointed out to me “One day we will have to submit to our husbands, so why not learn it now by submitting to our parents. It can be hard, but we have to learn this lesson.” Doesn’t that make sense? Some of us girls are trapped in the Rapunzel like thoughts of- If only I had a Flynn Rider to rescue me, or as soon as I get married I won’t have to do this anymore! WRONG! For most of us this IS our calling. And we have to embrace it.

Don’t throw all your dreams out the window. I still have dreams, but for know I am realizing that my dreams aren’t God’s plan for me. Maybe one day I’ll get to see LA, NY, and Italy, maybe one day I’ll be able to foster troubled teenagers, and maybe one day I’ll find my Flynn Rider and we’ll ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. But for know? For know I’m going to embrace my calling and go pick up that hallway for the 11th time today! ;)

So throw Rapunzel out the window, try to forget about Flynn for awhile and embrace your calling. Your Flynn will come. But in the meantime we need to be ready for him! And sitting around waiting for Flynn won’t pass the time any faster ladies! (Remember, Rapunzel was BUSY. She didn’t sit around! ;) )

Modesty and Guys…..

Oct 17th, 2011 15 Comments

My apologies for the two pictures in this article. I didn’t even notice that they had a strapless top in each them. Thanks to the ladies who informed me of them. Like I said, I didn’t even notice, and most of the time I write these articles in the wee hours of the morning, so if I miss anything please let me know ok?? :)

I never really thought about guys and modesty before I started getting older. And I never really realized how important it is to be modest. Ecspecially around guys. Know some of you girls might say “Well, it’s their problem. If they can’t control themselves, then it’s THEIR problem.” WRONG!

Girls that dress immodestly around guys will not have respect from guys. And as a female, you want guys to respect you.

Now, I will give you this, sometimes it doesn’t matter what you wear around guys. It’s true that some guys DO have problems and they can’t control themselves (I know take it from me!), but for 95% of guys respect girls that dress modestly. Here is what some guys say about modesty:

Question #1- Do You Respect a Modestly Dressed Girl More Then A Immodestly Dressed Girl?

“I respect a modestly dressed girl SO much! It shows so much of their inner character, strength to fight the culture, and care for their brothers!” age 16…..

“I hold girls who dress modestly with so much more respect, because they chose to stand alone.” age 16

“God requires me to respect everyone as someone created by God but beyond that, respect must be earned.” age 21

“No question. It’s hugely unattractive if a girl dresses immodestly; even more so if she acts immodestly. It honestly repulses me.” age 17

“Immodesty says, “take me to bed, it won’t cost you anything.” Modesty says, “respect me, win my heart, protect me.” age 23

“Modesty may not always receive the most attention, but it does receive the most respect.” age 25

“Especially a Christian girl – non-Chrisians have no reason to dress modestly but our sisters in Christ have a responsibility!” age 18

“Sure! When a girl who claims to be a Christian is dressing immodestly she has automatically lost most of my respect. I think that she either has not read the scriptures and seen that God requires modesty, or does not care, or has found a way to rationalize her clothing. She is also either clueless about how her clothing affects men or does not care. This may sound harsh, but I have very little respect for a woman who is any of the above. (As a parenthetical remark, for a new believer I give a hair of grace. But the longer she waits to change her dressing habits, the less respect I have for her.) Conversely, I have great respect for a woman that dresses modestly; she is obeying her LORD, showing love to her brothers, and standing against the wickedness in our culture.” age 16

Question #2- Modesty is an important quality for your future wife to have?

“It is absolutely my very first criteria. Immodestly dressed ladies are the first people I eliminate as possibilities.” age 21

“It is one of my chief qualites because it reveals a lot about her character. Does she want to be known as a hot girl or a godly lady?” age 23

“Modesty is not just an issue of clothes, it also has to do with the heart and the woman’s walk with God. A girl who dresses modestly is showing that her heart is right, and that is the kind of woman I intend to marry someday.” age 16

“There is a difference between paranoid modesty, or external (not from the heart) modesty, and true attractive modesty. I want my wife to know the difference, not out of legalism, but out of strong character. =)” age 17

“If she’s using that kind of bait to hook you, why would she stop after catching her first fish?” age 40-49

“The fact that my wife has saved so much of herself for me is really special. While we were getting to know each other her modestly let me know she was serious about bringing every area of her life in submission to Christ and that she cared about me and my spiritual growth.” age 30

“I don’t want my wife dressing as if she is trying to give herself away to every guy that looks at her. I want her to dress, even before I know her, as a woman who is a precious object that must be won through pure and genuine love, not lust.” age 21

“I don’t want a wife who lacks Christian morals and is immodest, but I don’t want a wife who dresses like a nun. I want a wife like my girlfriend who dresses tastefully, but in style.” age 18

“YES I am drawn more towards a girl that dresses modestly” age 21

“Modesty safeguards purity, and that is of monumental importance to me for my future wife.” age 17

“No girl even gets considered unless she is actively striving for modesty.” age 16

Question #3- Despite rampant immodesty all around us, girls who choose to dress modestly do make a difference-

“They distinguish themselves, the very thing the immodest girls are trying to do. All girls have curves. To a guy looking for more than that, showing curves doesn’t tell him anything new. He knows your a girl, he wants a lady.” age 30

“The girls who dress modestly make a difference because they stand out above the girls who dress immodestly. I am encouraged in my spiritual life to remain pure whenever I see a modestly dressed girl.” age 19

“They provide “hope” for single guys who are looking for girls with high standards. They help, even if only to a small degree, steer popular culture in the right direction. They allow guys to enjoy their friendship without the distractions that accompany immodest dress.” age 24

“If only there were more.” age 16

“It’s a breath of fresh air. I remember being on a beach amidst a sea of bikinis, and my eyes fixated on the gal in a t-shirt and trousers. What can I say? She was the attractive one!” age 21

“It shows that not everyone has bought the hype and that some girls prefer to be appreciated for their entire person instead of just their body.” age 18

“Please continue. Never stop. You do make a difference, if only to one person, there is a difference.” age 18

“Whenever I see a modest girl in a crowd, I can easily pick her out and I, as well as others (whether they realize it or not), show her more respect. And it seems that girls searching for God would be more likely to turn to a modestly dressed confessing Christian girl than one that looks no different than every other girl.” age 16

“They make a huge difference! Modest girls provide a consistent example of Biblical truth to a fallen world, and are lights of purity in the gloom of modern fashion. Stand against culture, be women of “sturdy virtue”, live for God, and the world will be speechless.” age 17

“In today’s immodest culture, the girl that really stands out among the rest is the modest one, the one that dresses differently.” age 16

“Modestly dressed girls show their fear and love of God while helping their brother in his fight. What an amazing faith-validating and love-confirming message!” age 30

“Girls who dress modestly are a breath of fresh air in the midst of the immodesty all around. It’s something like seeing a rare bird. Beautiful and exciting!” age 21

Taken from the Rebelution Modesty survey….


SEE? It’s not just me saying this! Tons of guys agree! They respect girls that dress modestly SO much more! Even non-christian guys do! You may not be getting any attention by dressing modestly, but you do gain the respect from young men. In the long run which do you want more? Respect or attention?

Do You Have A Boyfriend?

Oct 14th, 2011 18 Comments

Do you have a boyfriend? It seems like everyone asks me that question. And to be quite frank with you, I’m tired of it! I’m still in high school, and if I did want to date, most of the boys I know are too immature to date anyways! (seriously, I don’t want to date a teenager who STILL acts like my 10yo bro!)

I’ve already explained that I’m waiting till I find “the one”. But you might be wondering why. Why? Well, because I don’t want to just date anyone just for the sake of being “cool” or popular. The pleasure of guys attention is only temporary. Guys will move on. And unless you are ready for marriage then you really aren’t ready to date!

The thing, is you have to ask yourself, am I really ready for marriage? The whole point of dating is to find a partner for life. But the thing is, most teenagers aren’t ready for marriage at 16/17. Dating is all about relationships. And some teenagers just aren’t ready for the type of relationship that dating requires.

Teenagers these days date, make out, and break up faster then you can say “boom”. And people wonder why 65% of marriages fail and divorce rate increased 40% from 1970???? I wonder! Teenagers are so used to dating people and when things don’t go right they break up. What do you think is going to happen when they get married? The same thing. It’s a sobering thought.

In my opinionated mind, dating when you are 15 is pointless. 15 year old boys aren’t ready for marriage. And neither are girls. You kiss, make out, and talk all the time to these boys. And then you move on. And what are you left with? Ripped up valentines and broken hearts. What’s the point?

I really don’t think that most teens are mature enough to date unless they are 17/18! There is SO much that you can do before you start messing around with boys! If you really feel the “need” to date, I don’t judge you for that. We all have to live our lives, but the thing is, is that we need to live for God.

Well, what about me? I want to finish high school, then I want to take come college classes on photography and writing. I also want to go on a mission trip to Mexico. Maybe I’ll volunteer and help out some single moms. I don’t know what God wants me to do with my life, but I do know that there is so much more I can do besides dating!

Don’t get me wrong, I want more then anything else to meet that special man, but I’m willing to wait so that when I DO meet the one, I’ll be able to give him everything I have. Not just a piece of my heart. I want to be able to give him my heart, mind and body. Not just pieces of it, I want to be able to give him ALL of it.


I don’t want to throw away my affections on boys who don’t really love me. I’m looking for a prince charming. I’m looking for a man of God. I’m looking for a man who will love me for who I am, not what I look like. And that kind of man, will only come once in a lifetime! :)

Does that mean I haven’t had interest from guys? Oh, yes! Quite a few guys have been interested in me, but I’ve turned them down. Why? Well because 1. They weren’t the right guys for me and 2. I’m not ready to date. Right know I’m focused on school and serving Jesus. Not on boys. And besides, the only guys that have ever asked me out are the creepy guys. (I mean seriously, creepy!)

My advice is to make a list of 10 qualities you want in your future husband. And stick to that list! And don’t settle for anything less. And be sure to read good books like I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris and other books for encouragement and advice on purity. Whenever you decide to “get” a boyfriend, be sure to talk to your parents and PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!

Just remember that if God wants you to marry, then he will send along your prince charming. Don’t settle for anyone less! We deserve princes. And we deserve to be treated like the princesses that we are. God has written a love story for each and every one of us. We just have to wait until it begins! :) Girls, don’t throw away your purity just because a boy claims to be in love with you. Just wait, it will be worth it!

Wordless Wednesday-Pure

Mar 16th, 2011 2 Comments

Modest Monday: Be A Beacon

Mar 7th, 2011 Leave a comment

Have you ever stopped to think why modesty is so important? Some people may shrug it off and think “It doesn’t matter,” or “Everyone dresses this way and I want to fit in.” But think for a minute about yourself in the future.

Do you want to show your children photos of yourself wearing skimpy clothing? How about when your daughter wants to wear something inappropriate? What can you tell her? Do as I say and not as I did? It’s not very convincing. Your teenage years are years you will want to look back on, do you want everyone to remember you wearing inappropriate clothing?

Even if you feel like you won’t fit in, remember that there are probably other people you age who wished they had the strength to go against the crowd. If they see you dressed as an individual, you may give them the strength they need to be themselves. Always be a beacon, give an example for others to follow.

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